"26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down on your wrath,...
32 and be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you."
Communication is the most important thing in a marriage. When you communicate, you respect the others' feelings. Even if you are communicating something that is wrong, you are still communicating. In my walk of faith and marriage, I have learned 1 thing:
If I cannot talk to my husband or my Heavenly Father,
then there is something I am holding back or hurt by... and it needs to be addressed ASAP!
Because, if the flow of communications stops, the relationship dwindles.
There were times in my 10 years of marriage, that I needed to tell Shannon something that was eating me up inside, but I fought it. When the night came, I just could not sleep without telling him. There were times in our marriage where one of us was doing something very wrong, and it was not talked about for a long long time. This made a giant hole in the marriage.
Finally, when it came to the light,
it took longer to heal because it took longer to reveal.
It was slept on too many nights!
I remember Shannon and I had an old headboard with a big piece of wood on it and we did not really like it. We wanted to carve this phrase into the wood to remind us every night that if we could not kiss, then we were doing something wrong. Whether it was pride of who won an argument, or one fell asleep without the other because one wanted to stay up late and watch television, or one ate too many onions! Whatever... There were some times we stayed up too late in bed just talking and talking and both of us fell asleep without a kiss. I think that is excusable though. But, If you pretty much practice this rule, things are good. Just be careful for the kisses not to be insincere and ritualistic. These can hide things.
This same rule goes for our relationship with Christ. No, we cannot "kiss" him, but a kiss is a physical act of showing love. So, a spiritual act of showing love is prayer and time with God. If we cannot do these things, then there is an error in the relationship that needs to be addressed ASAP! Or else, your walk and relationship with Him is slowly dwindling. This problem will lead to many many other problems in your life! It will effect every area. The Bible says in Matthew 6:33
"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." So apposed the that, if we do not seek Him first, all these things will be subtracted unto you!
Also, the Bible says the GREATEST COMMANDMENT is “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind".. Luke 10:27. So, he is Commanding us to Love Him first, our "kiss" for him every night is to talk with Him, lay it all down.
The bedroom is a sacred place. It is a place of rest and intimacy all at one time. We cannot do either one without the other. We cannot love our spouse fully and properly without first loving the One that made us for each other and joined us together. How can you ignore that?